paperiskindamything:

ace-enjolras-blog:

i don’t hate you personally for it, i hate straight and cis people in general because they make me live in near-constant fear of being attacked verbally or physically for who i am

basically, i don’t hate you personally for being straight/cis, but i hate straight/cis people in general bc they hate me personally for being queer.

Okay. So this is a little confusing and seems illogical to me.
It just doesn’t make much sense to hate a very expansive community of people for the actions and voice of a relatively small portion. For example, a small percentage of the modern feminist movement is a group of men-hating, militant people who constantly attempt to reaffirm the idea that all men are sexist pigs and should be put down like dogs.
This doesn’t mean, though, that the entire movement is a group of men-hating radicals. Because this small percentage of the movement is the loudest and most radical, though, unfortunately it can end up being that their voice drowns out the rest.
This case applies to your situation by being a parallel. You seem to believe that as a whole, the cisgender and heterosexual community is most often homophobic and queerphobic in general, and that those of us who are more accepting than that are an exception to the overall mentality. In reality, though, it’s the opposite. Most cisgender and straight people are in fact doing their best to be accepting and open to queer people, and the queerphobic people are an exception to the overall accepting community.
Unless I’m missing something, what you’re saying doesn’t make sense to me. I feel like you’ve made the unfortunate mistake of believing the parallel of what’s actually true– the fact that most cisgender ad straight people are as accepting and open as they can be.

Allow me to direct you to my lovely friend piera seraheureux’s response, that can be found here and is also written below:

ELLO ANON it is i, yr friendly neighborhood spiderman

what most queer ppl who say “GAH I HATE STRAIGHT/CIS/CISHET/etc PEOPLE” mean is not literally “I HATE EVERY SINGLE STRAIGHT/CIS/CISHET/etc PERSON ON THE PLANET”

we mean that we hate straight ppl (im just gonna say straight for this, but u know what i mean) as an institution: the monolith of heteronormativity that perpetrates violence upon queer people, which!!! even if you don’t want to !!! you, as a straight person, benefit from. like, i’m white, so i AUTOMATICALLY have privilege in society over people of color. this sucks and i hate it and it’s unfair, but it’s true, whether i like it or not. so as a white person who tries not to be a SHITTY white person, i see black people (especially right now!!) making posts about how much they hate white people, and i’m like, ok, that’s a SUPREMELY fair reaction to the situation of injustice we are experiencing and the importance of yr expression of frustration and anger as the systematically wounded party trumps any hurt fee-fees i may have in response to that expression. which i don’t actually have bc i GET that most ppl makin those posts do not literally hate every single white person on the planet, they hate the white institution that allows things like ferguson to happen.

so when eren makes or reblogs posts that read as “heterophobic” or “cisphobic,” take it w a grain of salt: xe’s not hating on individual straight or cis ppl, xe’s expressing the IMMENSE FRUSTRATION of being a queer kid in a world that immensely, immensely tilted against hir.

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also in general w things like sexism/racism/homophobia/etc, there’s such a power difference that “misandry” (for example) or “heterophobia” just… aren’t even on the same SCALE as their traditional counterparts. like, a non-het person fearing or hating straight people isn’t a phobia, bc phobias are irrational. non-het people fearing or hating straight people is a rational reaction to centuries of abuse and violence.

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   Okay, that makes sense. Thanks a ton for clarifying that, it helps a ton :)

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   Allow me to direct you to my lovely friend piera seraheureux’s response, that can be found here and is also written...

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